here's the email i got from my mom today:
"Things are not going too well around here right now. Your Dad and I had a big incident Sat. night. Anyway, it started because I wasn't as responsive as he wanted to his advances once we went to bed. He started crying. I decided I couldn't deal with it, because he does this all the time, and went upstairs to sleep in the spare room. A few minutes later he followed me up, ripped the sheets off the bed, grabbed me by the wrist and yanked me out of the bed saying he wanted me to sleep with him. I pulled away, but went back downstairs. There was no sleeping as you might imagine. My wrist and arm hurt all night, but there are no bruises or anything. The worst of it is that he hurt me physically, and by extention, emotionally. The one thing I had been sure of in spite of everything else, was that he would never physically hurt me. Now that surity has been shattered. I will not allow myself to be physically abused. I am at a loss as to where to go from here. Right now your Dad is sleeping upstairs, what sleeping he does. He has an appointment tomorrow with a therapist. We tried talking about it some, and of course he is very sorry it happened and insists that it will never happen again, but that's been said before. I just don't know what to do.
I hesitate to tell you about this, because I know how upsetting it is to hear, but neither do I want to keep it a secret from you because you need to know what is going on. The weird thing is I really thought things were getting a lot better. Dad's started a new job selling insurance, his mood seemed lighter and we'd had a really nice couple of weeks. I thought he'd finally turned a real corner on things. Now it all seems to be back to square one.
The one person I am not telling is Jason. He has so much anger toward his father that he would be ready to kill him if he knew. Please don't say anything to him.
Shawn and Sarah know what happened. Shawn was ready to "beat him 3 quarters to death", but of course didn't, that's just how angry he was. He is here if I need him. Sarah was angry, too, and offered me a place to stay, saying it was totally unacceptable. Blanca also knows because I was with her yesterday, she also offered me a place to stay if I needed it. so I have alot of people looking out for me."
shit. if my mom leaves my dad, he will kill himself for sure.